What Is Wrong With Me ? Self - Deception And The Human Heart

patheos.com · Feb 23, 2026 · Collected from GDELT

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What Is Wrong With Me? Self-Deception and the Human Heart 2026-02-23T17:18:15+00:00 Adrian Warnock Image adapted from Pixabay You are not alone. People ask “what is wrong with me?” when they are anxious, depressed, or weighed down with guilt or shame. Sometimes a broken relationship is the trigger, or even personal trauma. It is often a cry of deep pain, and can prompt an existential crisis that causes us to question everything we think we know about human nature. Let me say this clearly at the outset: Suffering is real. Injustice is real. Harm is real. There is a big difference between healthy guilt and destructive shame. And yet, there is another dimension to the question that is harder to face. Over the past months I have been working on a book that tries to explore this without collapsing into self-blame. The Traitor Within is, at heart, a work of Christian anthropology, which means our understanding of human nature. It asks what is wrong with us, not merely psychologically, socially, or politically, but at the level of the human heart. Drawing on medicine, psychiatry, Scripture, and historical voices like Newton and Spurgeon, I aim to integrate psychology, counseling, ethics, and theology into a single coherent diagnosis with practical pathways towards healing. Naming our inner traitor is not the end of hope. It is the beginning of spiritual renewal. Below is the current draft of the book’s description. Before I finalize the Amazon listing, I would value your feedback. Does it strike the right balance between moral clarity and pastoral care? Does the integration of psychology and theology feel coherent? I am especially keen to hear from those who have wrestled deeply with suffering, doubt, or disillusionment. An early access version of the book is already available and includes the ability to get free updates when the book is completed. You are invited to help me shape the book by your feedback. The Traitor Within: Understanding and Healing Our Deceitful Hearts BUY HERE The Traitors has captivated millions worldwide, as contestants form alliances, lie, betray, and “murder” one another. From our sofas, we are confident we would spot the liars. Yet week after week, the faithful banish the wrong person. Humans are not very good at detecting deception. What if the real traitor isn’t on the TV screen? Society urges us to follow our hearts, be true to our identity, and manifest our dreams. When life disappoints us, we blame damaging relationships, oppression, or trauma. Some seek answers through years of counseling. Much of this work has value. Suffering is real. But what if there is a deeper reason for our troubles? An ancient prophet wrote, “The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately sick; who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9, ESV). This challenges our belief that human nature is basically good, apart from a few obvious perpetrators. It suggests that each of us is damaged, not only by what others have said or done to us, but also by our own self-deception. We are not only deceived. We also deceive. You are not responsible for the sins committed against you. Naming the traitor within us does not erase injustice done to us. It is the beginning of genuine healing, not self-blame. Adrian Warnock draws on his training as a doctor, clinical work as a psychiatrist, pastoral care in a church leadership team, and lived experience with chronic illness. He offers a realistic diagnosis of the human condition, exploring suffering, identity, sin, and social expectations. He explains the difference between healthy guilt and destructive shame. This is not a call to self-condemnation or to excuse harm done to you. It is an invitation to moral clarity, creating space for honest accountability without identity collapse. Alongside what is wrong with us comes hope, forgiveness, grace, and practical suggestions for how we can begin to experience healing in each dimension. A moral and ethical framework emerges that is not about pointing out the flaws in other people but about learning how to live together peacefully, despite the polarization and hostility we find online. We learn to appreciate how diverse ancient traditions have shaped many of the moral instincts we take for granted. This early access edition of The Traitor Within explores how our bodily signals mislead us, how our minds distort reality, and how fractured trust is at the root of our broken society. Many say we have outgrown religion. But perhaps we have also lost meaning and forgotten ancient wisdom forged over thousands of years. The inclusion of chapters by both Charles Spurgeon and John Newton, updated into modern English, highlights their timeless insights into the deceitful human heart. If you are weary of shallow answers and ready for uncomfortable truths grounded in genuine hope, The Traitor Within is accessible to any reader yet deep enough for health professionals, counsellors, pastors, and theologians. It proposes a biopsychosocial-spiritual model of wellbeing and personal transformation. Within its first month, The Traitor Within ranked on Amazon as a hot new release in Christian Anthropology and Christian Counseling & Recovery. Early reviewers say: “A rare kind of spiritual book that refuses to flatter the reader.” “Honest about human brokenness without becoming bleak, and firm about truth without losing tenderness.” “This is not another shallow Christian self-help book with spiritual slogans taped over modern psychology.” “Adrian is a first-rate communicator.” — Albert Mohler Jr Part of a series of books Transformed by Jesus: Spiritual Renewal which describes the transforming power of resurrection hope and the invitation to a new life in Christ, lived out in a community of believers.